Hexagram 13 Problems with friends

I Ching. Hexagram 13 is named 同人 (tóng rén), “Concording People”.
Other variations include “Fellowship”, “Congregating people”, “Gathering men”.
Hexagram 13 Problems with friends

Hexagram 13. Relationship extenal trigrams

IN THE MANIFESTED REALITY. Everywhere a blue, bottomless sky. The vibration of creativity, love, God is most manifest already here and now. The maximum is in the sense that the situation can not hold anymore at the present time.
The flame rose to the blue sky. The fire flares up increasingly stronger and stronger. The flame of passion flares up. Contradictions come from the internal plane of the situation threatening to destroy all that has been achieved.
Where earlier was bottomless blue heaven, tomorrow fire flame will blaze. Passions flame will fill in all and will remove true love and God to the second plan.

Hexagram 13 Relationship internal trigrams

There is a blue, bottomless sky. The vibration of creativity, love, God is most manifest already here and now. The subconscious cannot hold the more pure divine vibration at the present time.
Under the blue sky, the tree seeds sprouted on the ground. In the depths of the subconscious, the seeds of changes sprouted.
The trees grow. The branches of trees aspire to the sky. The tree roots penetrate deeply in the earth. The spiritual search is intensified. The desire for a strong financial position is also growing.
Where earlier was blue heaven, tomorrow mighty forest will grow. The forest symbolizes hustle and bustle. The hustle and bustle will remove love and God to the second plan.


Both in the manifested world, and in the subtle, here and now the vibration of creativity, love, and God is manifested as much as possible. This is the moment when the heavens descended to the Earth, this is the moment of the embodiment of the most cherished desires in all plans. But seeking to remain in such a situation is basically impracticably. All this is useless. Change is inevitable. This causes emotions and passions in the world of events, and the hustle and bustle at the subconscious level. The situation cannot be inhibited. The stronger the attachment to someone, the stronger will be the emotions about the inevitable changes in the relationship. The attachments to love, friendship or another state are the resistance to change. The changes are inevitable.

Strong attachments will necessarily cause a very strong wind of change, which will destroy them. The God cuts the bonds so that it would be easier for you to continue on the path of spiritual growth. Learn to love without becoming attached! Learn to easily accept any loss, even if it seems to you that they are irreplaceable. What brings disappointment and pain now will certainly be appreciated as a very important turning point to true happiness in the future. We for ourselves initiate all our big misfortunes exactly by our big intention to secure ourselves from losses. The path to happiness, the path to the easy embodiment of desires is the complete detachment and the absence of any expectations.

Multidimensionality (opposite vibration)


MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING hides distinctions, differences. The contradictions are accumulated inside and then they break out as PROBLEMS WITH FRIENDS.


Hexagram 13 Problems with friendsProblems with friends

No burst of laughter, no sigh


Positions to consider:


  1. “Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves,” Carl Jung.
  2. “An insincere and evil friend is more to be feared than a wild beast; a wild beast may wound your body, but an evil friend will wound your mind,” Buddha.
  3. “If one does not understand a person, one tends to regard him as a fool,” Carl Jung.
  4. Problems with friends are benchmarks on our spiritual path. Misunderstanding crops up if your vibrations grow way too high for your friends to match.
  5. “The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed,” Carl Jung.
  6. “Knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing with the darknesses of other people,” Carl Jung.
  7. “Respond intelligently even to unintelligent treatment,” Lao Tzu.
  8. The more intimate our relations, the likelier conflicts and serious misunderstandings. These are the nearest and dearest who usually challenge us the most. Nevertheless, is there anything better than close friends?
  9. “A dog is not considered a good dog because he is a good barker. A man is not considered a good man because he is a good talker,” Buddha
  10. When we chose to incarnate in this dualistic world, we were seeking and expecting challenges, problems with friends being one of them. Now it’s time to face our choices and resolve the problems.
  11. “The tongue like a sharp knife … Kills without drawing blood,” Buddha.
  12. “It is a fact that cannot be denied: the wickedness of others becomes our own wickedness because it kindles something evil in our own hearts,” Carl Jung.
  13. “If my life is of no value to my friends it is of none to myself,” Joseph Smith, Jr.
  14. “People put so much effort into starting a relationship and so little effort into ending one,” Marina Abramovic.
  15. “Ignore those that make you fearful and sad, that degrade you back towards disease and death,” Jalal ad-Din Muhammad Rumi.
  16. “When you truly don’t care what anyone thinks of you, you have reached a dangerously awesome level of freedom,” unknown author.
  17. “To quarrel with an intelligent person is as difficult as putting up with a stupid one,” unknown author.
  18. “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place,”
    George Bernard Shaw.
  19. “Do not do unto others as you would that they should do unto you. Their tastes may not be the same,” George Bernard Shaw.
  20. “It is dangerous to be sincere unless you are also stupid,” George Bernard Shaw.
  21. “As long as you know men are like children, you know everything!” Coco Chanel.
  22. “Be alone, that is the secret of invention; be alone, that is when ideas are born,” Nikola Tesla.
  23. “I have heard so much slander in your address, I have no doubt that you are a wonderful person!” Oscar Ould.
  24. “Don’t worry over what other people are thinking about you. They’re too busy worrying over what you are thinking about them,” Arthur Bloch.
  25. “Rascals are always sociable, and the chief sign that a man has any nobility in his character is the little pleasure he takes in others company,” Arthur Schopenhauer.
  26. “I am not who you think I am; I am not who I think I am; I am who I think you think I am,” Charles Horton Cooley.
  27. “A person becomes completely unbearable for us when his inner light overshadows our own,” – Vet Zatinus ‘The Basic Law of Subtle Energy Exchange’.
  28. “If you blame other people for your failures, be consistent: praise them for your successes,” Tadao Yamaguchi.
  29. “To quarrel with an intelligent person is as difficult as to make peace with a fool,” an unknown author.
  30. “If you do not want to spoil relations with a person, do not stop him from lying,” the author is unknown.
  31. “Never argue with stupid people, they will drag you down to their level and then beat you with experience,” Mark Twain.
  32. “The disadvantage belongs to the one who sees it,” Sufi wisdom.
  33. “You can view your own drawbacks only through the eyes of other people,” Sufi wisdom.
  34. “… if people do or say something offensive, it means that they don’t feel protected and happy. In other words, they are scared, ” Yonge Mingyur Rinpoche.
  35. “Do not try to seem better to people than you really are – you will not be able to stand on tiptoes for a long time, but also do not try to seem worse than you are – you will not be squatted for a long time either, ” Mikhail Afanasevich Bulgakov.
  36. “When we seek to discover the best in others, we somehow bring out the best in ourselves,” William Arthur Ward.
  37. “Anyone, who does not know you, begins to think up you,” an unknown author.
  38. “It’s hard to live with someone you cannot make happy. Especially when this person is yourself,” P. Korobchansky.
  39. “A man is not what he says, nor what he seems, but the atmosphere that is created in his presence. This is what is a testimony. For no one is able to create an atmosphere that does not belong to its essence”, Sufi wisdom.
  40. “Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously,” Prentis Hemphill.
  41. “The question “What will people think?” – Must be in the very last place. In fact, everyone does not care. Life is yours,” George Bernard Shaw.
  42. “I thought friends are lost in quarrels, and they just dissolve in business, money and time!” George Bernard Shaw.
  43.  “Loneliness does not depend in any way on the presence or absence of people around,” Irwin Yalom.
  44. “They say that the best friends are those who can just listen,” Nikki French.
  45. “Only those who are worse than us think badly of us, and those who are better than us … They simply have no time for us,” Omar Khayyam.
  46. “When you are not ready to accept yourself, you are even less ready to accept other people,” Nick Vujicic.
  47. “Everyone wants to have a friend, but not everyone wants to be one”,  proverb.
  48. “Anger vibrates within and saps our strength every time we think of this person. Mentally we argue with him, we have unpleasant dialogues, and each of them makes us weaker. From the point of view of energy, it would be wiser to forgive a person, although you don’t want to do this at all. At the same time, thanks to forgiveness, the energy spent on anger or hatred is released; now it can be used for other purposes. Forgiveness strengthens our energy. The one who forgives, not the one who is forgiven, benefits first of all from it. This is a very correct view of relationships with others,”  John Kehoe.

 Numerology hexagram 13

Hexagram 13 corresponds to the Svadhisthana chakra

Author: Evgeny Kitanin (Vet Zatinus).

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